Mum doesn't want pity for Harry, just for him to lead a normal life (with audio)

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Wednesday, June 18, 2008
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LITTLE Harry Hirchfield is sitting on the sofa watching

cartoons with his twin sister Annie.

As the two four-year-olds chatter away and laugh at the

screen, it is hard to believe that Harry is chronically ill, or

that in a few years time Annie will have to face a future

without her twin brother.

In the words of their mother Alice Hirchfield, Harry has a

disease that “kills”. He was born with a condition called

Duchenne, a degenerative form of muscular dystrophy that leads

to paralysis, breathing problems and early death.

No-one can say exactly how fast Harry's condition will

deteriorate but most patients with Duchenne are paralysed from

the neck down by the time they are teenagers and rarely live

past their twenties.

In just a few short years, Alice knows that her son will

probably need a ventilator to help him breathe and a permanent

feeding tube into his stomach.

But despite the illness, the 34-year-old remains positive

and is cherishing the time she has with Harry.

Although he cannot walk, the little boy is bright, active

and alert. He alternates between deftly whizzing around his

Spondon home in a child-size wheelchair and shuffling along on

his bottom.

Duchenne rarely affects mental development so Harry will

attend a mainstream primary school with his sister in September

and is expected to learn at the same rate.

Alice said: “Harry is mischievous, full of life and can

bum-shuffle around the house and garden for England.

“Although there are challenges ahead, many people with

Duchenne live their lives to the full, going to university and

doing normal things like spending time with friends.

“I want Harry to go to a normal school because I believe in

inclusion and although his life will be shorter than most, I

will support him in whatever he wants to do.”

Duchenne is a genetic muscle wasting disease that mostly

affects males and causes progressive muscle weakness as the

cells break down and die.

Caring for Harry is already a full-time job for Alice, a

single mum with four other children including Annie, as he

needs daily physiotherapy and constant care.

He also regularly visits Derbyshire Children's Hospital for

consultations, physiotherapy and occupational therapy and sees

a specialist in Newcastle every three months.

She said: “I function on four hours sleep a night as Harry

doesn't sleep well. He wakes up between 4am and 6am and then we

have to do about half an hour of physiotherapy.

“It's a necessary evil as it prevents his muscles from

contracting and becoming permanently deformed but it hurts him

so I hate doing it. I often go into the bathroom afterwards and

have a little cry.

“Harry must also spend time every day in a standing frame to

exercise his leg muscles, as he can't stand independently, and

he wears splints on his legs for six hours every day and at

night.”

Alice is a former nurse and is determined to keep Harry at

home as his condition worsens, rather than put him into

care.

She has been given a disability grant from Derby City

Council to build an extension on the back of her home with a

special bed for Harry, complete with a hoist to help lift him

as he gets heavier, and a fully-adapted bathroom.

As Duchenne progresses, patients also experience breathing

and feeding problems as the muscles in their chest and abdomen

weaken, so the extension will one day house the breathing and

feeding equipment that Harry will need in the future. It is

usually breathing or heart problems which eventually cause

Duchenne patients to die.

Alice said: “Harry is my son and I am determined that he

will stay with me for as long as he wants to.

“My hope is that the equipment will help Harry to live as

independently as possible as he grows older, able to do things

like go to the toilet himself until he becomes completely

paralysed, and with a portable ventilator so he can socialise

with his sister.”

She said that Annie coped very well with her brother's

disability but she has no idea how to prepare her for what lies

ahead.

She said: “Harry's condition is normal to Annie because she

has always known him this way and she is already very

protective of him.

“Once on holiday another little boy came over and asked us

why Harry was in a wheelchair. Annie's reply was to ask him why

he was wearing glasses!”

Today, patients with Duchenne and their carers from across

the country will take part in a lobby of Parliament organised

by national charity Action Duchenne, calling for more

Government funding for research into the condition.

Ms Hirchfield was going to attend with Harry but he has been

poorly with constipation – another common side effect – so she

decided not to go.

She said: “As well as calling for more funding for a cure, I

want to raise awareness of the condition.

“Sometimes when Harry and I are out and about people look at

us with pity, which I find really frustrating because Harry is

still a wonderful little boy and I want him to have as normal a

life as possible.

“I want the public to better understand people with

disabilities and treat Harry the same as everyone else. He's

still a person.”

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    by Annette Rush, petersfield

    Friday, June 20 2008, 8:14AM

    “Alice, you and your family are such inspirational, beautiful people and what a mum for your Harry to have! We WILL win and we will get our treatments to save our kids lives.”

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    by ELISABETH, formerly derby

    Wednesday, June 18 2008, 6:41PM

    “good luck. hope u get support from family n friends as u will need a good support network in time. think u hav made right decision about school. life should be normal as poss. xxx”

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