I never thought I'd have a baby but Harry made us the luckiest parents alive

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Monday, January 09, 2012
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SHE cried when she thought about the baby she might never have.

Lisa Wright abandoned her dream of becoming a mum when she was diagnosed with a complicated fertility disorder.

Her hopes sank deeper when doctors discovered her husband had medical problems too.

"I always thought it would be easy to have a baby," said 28-year-old Lisa, from Derby.

"I thought I'd get pregnant straightaway and that I'd have a baby after we got married.

"When doctors found that Chris and I both had fertility problems, I was devastated We both were.

"It was a real shock and I cried and cried. Then we put our faith in the doctors and prayed that they would be able to help us."

In October, Lisa and Chris, 32, became the proud parents of baby Harry Christopher Wright. He was born four weeks early and weighed just 6lbs 4ozs. Now, at 10 weeks old, he is a picture of health.

The couple underwent IVF treatment at Care Fertility in Nottingham. They were successful on their first attempt, which was funded on the NHS.

"Since Harry was born we've just sat and looked at him," said Lisa, who works as a nurse, specialising in dermatology, at London Road Community Hospital.

"He's the most perfect thing in the world and we love him so much. We feel so very lucky. He's the most lovely thing.

"I can't even describe what it was like to think that we'd never have a baby of our own. I'd been so upset.

"Last year, I remember my dad asking me what I wanted for Christmas and I replied 'a baby'. I never thought I'd get one this year.

"There were some really dark days when I just couldn't be positive about the future. Having fertility problems really does eat you up."

Lisa started to worry about not being pregnant six months after she got married.

After the pair tied the knot in November 2007, Lisa went to talk to her GP.

"I wasn't really concerned but I decided to go and talk to someone," she said.

"A friend at work encouraged me to go because she knew I was getting a bit fidgety. I'm glad I did."

After months of hospital appointments Lisa was diagnosed with a condition called polycystic ovary syndrome.

It is a common disorder which affects women.

It hampers fertility due to disordered ovulation and multiple cysts in the ovaries.

"I had no idea," said Lisa. "To be honest, it came as a bit of a shock.

"I was told that there was lots a gynaecologist could do but I was still pretty upset.

"I wanted a baby more than anything so I didn't want to be told that there was a problem."

Following Lisa's diagnosis, came another shock discovery.

Routine tests revealed that Chris had fertility problems too.

"It was another big shock and something else to sort out," said Lisa.

"We were pretty surprised but at least it explained why I hadn't been able to get pregnant."

Lisa and Chris made an appointment with Joe Darne, a consultant gynaecologist at Royal Derby Hospital.

He runs Derby's satellite Care Fertility clinic.

"As soon as we started to get some of these medical problems diagnosed, I guess we started to feel more positive about having a baby.

"That said, we were still really worried about whether we'd ever be able to conceive.

"Despite all our problems, doctors were still feeling positive and that made us feel better.

"I never dreamed it would happen but I put my faith in the doctors."

Chris, who works for Derbyshire police, said: "Lisa was getting really upset about it. We both were.

"We thought our chances of having a baby were dwindling each time doctors discovered we had more problems.

"We started talking about adoption because our hopes were fading.

"I put a call into the council's adoption team to find out what the procedure was.

"We wanted children so much."

In September 2010, the couple were offered one NHS-funded attempt at IVF and six sessions of IUI – a less invasive treatment which places sperm into a woman's uterus.

After their first attempt of IUI, which was unsuccessful, the pair were encouraged to fast-track treatment and start IVF.

"It was a huge dilemma for us," said Chris.

"Because if we agreed to go straight for IVF we were told we wouldn't be able to go back to the IUI.

"The team at Care really thought we'd be better with IVF and after thinking about it, we followed their advice.

"We'd spent months being upset and worrying about not having a baby so we decided to do it."

Lisa said: "I never thought we'd get there. I thought we'd be childless forever.

"When the IUI failed, my heart broke again.

"It's the most stressful thing in the world and no one can help you."

Lisa admits she cried when friends announced their baby news. And when she saw baby-themed ads on the TV, tears rolled down her face.

"Holding it together was sometimes really hard," she said. "I was even thinking of looking for a new job because so many of the girls were having babies.

"My mum was really supportive and so was Chris's but it wasn't easy."

Starting the IVF treatment made Lisa feel more positive about their infertility issues.

She was told the success rate was good and began injecting herself with hormones.

In January 2011, she prepared for treatment.

"I was positive but even then I didn't think that I'd definitely get pregnant.

"After the eggs were fertilised and the embryos were put back, I started to really hope that I had a baby growing inside me."

The next two weeks were tough. Lisa and Chris had to wait patiently before they were allowed to do a pregnancy test.

"The clinic gave me the test and we brought it home," said Lisa.

"It was the hardest thing not to rip open the packet and do it before the 14 days were up."

On day 14, Lisa's test revealed a positive result. It brought news the pair had only dreamed about.

Lisa was pregnant.

"We rushed out and bought more tests and we did them. They all said I was pregnant. I'll never forget the date, it was March 12."

Eight weeks later, Lisa was invited back to Care Fertility for a scan.

"I felt nervous but when I saw the tiny, tiny heartbeat on the screen, I was overwhelmed.

"I was finally pregnant and I was so thrilled. It was just the most fantastic news,'' she said.

During IVF, the process is boosted by injection with special medications

Lisa added: "The procedure had been pretty straightforward. Some of it wasn't that nice but I was ok.

"When Chris was home, he had to do all my injections. And if I was at work, then a friend did it for me.

"I must admit, you don't always feel that great."

Lisa's pregnancy was straightforward and stress-free. She enjoyed a few days of maternity leave before baby Harry made an early appearance.

"He was born at 35 weeks," said Lisa. "It was a bit of a shock, but I was ready.

"The day before, I'd gone into town and done all my Christmas shopping. And almost as soon as I finished work, I got the nursery ready and washed all my baby clothes."

Lisa went into hospital at 5am on Monday morning and Harry was born the next day at 2.01pm.

"October 18 will always be a very special day," said Lisa. "It was the day Harry was born. Although he was premature, everything was fine.

"We stayed in hospital for a week but we had nothing to worry about. Harry developed jaundice, but he had treatment. Then we were allowed to go home."

Lisa and Chris have successfully saved a healthy embryo at Care Fertility. It is on ice.

It will be stored at the Nottingham clinic for the next three years in case the couple want to use it.

"I think we'll definitely want it," said Lisa. "We've said that we'll talk about the embryo next year when Harry is a year old.

"I'd like to thaw it out and try and use it. Having another baby would be wonderful.

"We always wanted two children but when we struggled to conceive our thoughts and attention turned to trying to just get one.

"Now we've got Harry we feel like the luckiest parents alive. I can't stop visiting people and showing him off."

Lisa and Chris want to thank all the medics who made their dream come true.

The also want this story to inspire other couples to chase their dreams of parenthood – despite their own infertility problems they may have

"We will be eternally grateful to Care," said Lisa. "In times of desperate need, this clinic helped us.

"We have Harry and he's the most wonderful thing in the world. We have so many people to thank. You have made our lives complete and we love Harry with all our heart."

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